#longoverduehoneymoon trip _ Universal Studio Japan

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Sorry terberhenti sekejap...bukan apa saya kena tapis dulu gambar apa yang sy mau upload. Kena resize gambar lepas tu ada kerja sekejap jadi terdelay lah penceritaan trip saya ini.

Apapun, lets continue...

So, what is so special about Universal Studio Japan, Osaka?

Ehm, I cannot give you the answer since i've never yet been to other universal studio...paling dekat di Spore pun belum sampai...tiba2 di Osaka suda jejak kaki..pelik kan. 

So, untuk ke USJ from our hotel, we took chuo line -- the green line-- that cost us 160 yen each. But we have to stop at Benchento to change to JR line (the government train). From Benchento to nishikujo have to change line to universal city. So sorry i couldnt remember the train fare... we didnt use our KTP (pls refer to my previous post) since we going to use it to Kyoto, Nara and Kobe.

Pic: JR Line station at Nishikujo

pic: all JR line is in orange color. quite look old but still very clean

After some tersilap berhenti train, we finally managed get back to the right station. hehehehe.

Pic: warm welcoming greetings from USJ

pic: USJ is so big. you really need at least 1 whole day to finish all the place inside the USJ.

entrance fee: 7400 yen each

we didnt take the express pass because I didnt want to play the games. Gila scary! Besides, i am too old to have 'panik jantung'. So no more roller coaster. That's why sightseeing is just enough for us. That fee is very expensive you know about RM279.72. so since we didnt play, (except at Spiderman house) so we really took our time enjoy the views and took many pictures there!

pic: 1st time ambil gambar dengan Pink Panther. Terasa budak2 semula

pic: this is the best ever for me! Who doesnt love Harry Potter. 

see: it's like a dream come true. The train quite similar to the movie

see the view. The best i must say!

Ok, orang Jepun ni selain budaya displin mereka yang tinggi, sikap friendly mereka, pembersih..satu hal yang saya perhatikan ialah mereka sangat sporting. Masa masuk USJ, saya perasan mereka suka pakai baju (dlm group) tema. Ada yang pakai baju Harry Potter, Minions, ada yang cat muka..pendek kata sporting lah. Dan paling best, bila kita mau ambil gambar dengan mereka, mereka sangat happy!

pic: The Hagemaru Clan. Ramai student Jepun, mereka ni sedang buat field trip

Ni lagi group minions.

Banyak lagi gambar, tapi yang lain saya suda upload di FB. Tidak payah lah benda yang sama kan. Tapi saya sangat happy lah dpt experience masuk USJ ni. Husband pun happy. Sambil tengok gelagat orang Jepun. Memang membuka minda betul lah. Will I go here again? I will but next will be with my kids.

ambil kenangan bersama di sini.

So, kami keluar dari USJ sekitar 6 petang mau dekat jam 7 suda. Sebab next destinasi kami adalah shopping di Namba. Katanya Namba ni happening masa malam. 

Nanti saya update cerita Namba pula ya.

Till my next entry.

Thanks for reading!

#longoverduehoneymoon Trip to Japan - The Arrival

We reached at Kansai International Aiport (KIX) at 3.45pm (Japan time - 1 hour ahead from MY). About 6hrs journey. It was quite exhausting as we really don't have enough rest because of our miss flight story, you can read it here . Plus not so much activity to do on flight- you know lah AA everything must be paid like rental movie or rent power bank to charge your phone! So yeah, i'm quite restless and sakit leher.

By the way, we will be given 2 forms to be fill in and submit to the Japan Immigration. So keep the forms properly because they immigration officer will asked you that form. By the way, 2 white forms and 1 brown form. The brown form (sorry i forgot to take pics on this) is basically is for the husband to fill it as a 'ketua rumah tangga' so only 1 form for this for each family!

One more thing, while you waiting for your luggage don't be surprised if suddenly got dog come near you. This is how Japan police want to check foreigner if you try to seludup masuk any prohibited things like drug. To be honest, I was quite shock when suddenly got dog near me and try to 'bau' me. I don't really like dog actually because i am more to "cat person' that 'dog person'.

So after everything is clear, 1st thing 1st, you must go to Kansai Tourist Information Centre. Take many pamphlets (in english of course) as many as you can, that of course related to which place you want to go and it is highly recommended if you buy the Kansai Thru Pass (KTP) for 3 days. (there is 2 options one is for 2 days pass and the other one is 3 days. Depend to you how many days u want, but as for us, because we dont want to go thru so many hassles during our trip we choose 3 days!)

This KTP is about 5200 yen per person and it covers the whole trains, subways and buses in Kansai area that shown on the card EXCEPT for trains under Japan Rail Pass (JR pass). If you want to know about this pass, pls do some research about this. (^_^). So Since we have no guide, and travel as backpackers and being not very familiar with Japan Train System, i think this KTP really help us! You can buy this KTP at the Kansai Tourist Information Centre in the airport.

But bear in mind that, this KTP is only valid for 3 days! SO if u stay at Japan more than 3 days, you need to plan very well when you going to use this pass.

After you buy this ticket, of course the next move is go to your hotel lah kan..so we chose Sun White Hotel located at Tanimachi-Chuo Ku somewhere in Osaka. I will tell you more about this Hotel. By the way, any hotel  in Osaka, you have to use the Nankai Line (orange line). (as shown below)

For us, we didn't use our KTP instead we buy single way ticket. Because we plan to go to Kyoto, Nara and Kobe. So the last thing that we want to have in Japan is STRESS! why, the trains system in Japan is way too complicated and for the 1st timer like us, better use this pass for a longest trip that need to exchange many trains.

This is Kansai Region Map. Basically Osaka is in the heart of this region. So if you planning to go other province like Kyoto or Nara, it is easy if you chose Osaka to stay and make it as ur 'base camp'. 

 This map is included in your KTP. So as you can see (click to enlarge), there are so many trains and subways (by color codded)..so you really need to study this map. Some blogger suggest to install Japan Rail Map-Tokyo Osaka or Japan offline map, guide, weather, hotels (App Store), i didn't know that this app is exist before I went to Japan so yeah, if you planning to go there i think this app will help you.

So back to Nankai Line, because we still have no idea how to buy ticket, we just went straight to the Nankai Information Centre and buy ticket. Done! Price 920 Yen (RM35 ~ using at that time exchange currency that will be 100 yen = RM 3.78)

Those who can read kanji (chinese, Korean) will have some ideas on what have been written there, but for us buta kanji, we just understand the figures only! But basically it is tell us this ticket is from KIX to Tengachaya Station (K20) where we have to exchange train from Nankai line to our place that will be Tanimachi Line (purple Line).

So from Tengachaya station, actually we can go straight using Sakaisuji Line (brown Line) to Hommachi Station (C17/K15) and make another exchange train that is Tanimachi Line (purple Line) heading to Tanimachi 4-chome. That will cost 240 Yen. But, because we followed what we got from our research thru Mr.Google, he asked us to stop at Minami Morimachi Station (T21/K13) and then exchange to Tanimachi Line, so a little bit extra yen there and jarak bertambah! But it's ok, as long as we reach to our destination safely. But if you happened to stay at the same hotel, i advise u to stop from Tengachaya to Honmachi Station, then hop to tanimachi line. By the way, from Tengachaya you have to click on 240 Yen for Tanimachi 4-chome. upsss..so far boleh faham ka ni? ka still have no idea? It's ok. It is NORMAL! (But at least you have some ideas by giving you the name of station!)

Anyway, from KIX to Tengachaya is about 1 hr journey. I was like jakun because throughout the journey, I still couldn't believe i am at Japan already. And my 1st impression about Japan is that the city is very CLEAN! The people of Japan is very polite and helpful. And very discpline too. Compare to our countries, They will give way to passenger to exit 1st then only they enter the train. No adegan tolak menolak lah sini!

Then, from Tengachaya to Tanimachi 4-chome, it tooks another 15 min i think. And when you reached the station u still need to know which exit you have to take. But in my case, keluar saja dari train, we go to no 4 exit from the tanimachi 4-chome.

Nah ini lah maksud sy, setiap line ada colour dia sendiri. Tanimachi Line is purple colour ye!

So after all the penat mengharungi 6 hrs journey plus 1hr ++ trip on trains, we finally reached at our Hotel. The SunWhite Hotel. Very strategic hotel. Because it is near to the subways and many shops around this hotel. So very convenience, I tell you. (^_^)

As you can see, the building behind me is the hotel that we stayed for 6 days 5 nights. Thanks to my husband for very wise decision choosing this hotel! 

That's it guys! That was our story upon our arrival at Osaka. Like I said, we really enjoyed our trip.

Next story will be Trip to Universal Studio Japan.

See you in my next post.

Thank you for reading!

#longoverduehoneymoon Trip to Japan - The Miss Flight Story

I was so wanted to do a post regarding travelling..well u know to give you some tips here and there..unfortunately since the day 1 i started my blog i have never have the kind of 'travelling story' to share with you...so basically my blog was all about my life story which if you can see that my blog becoming almost a dead blog! hahahaha

So I'm back again here... I was dying to write this on as I wanted to keep this as my sweetest memory plus I wanted to share with you our #longoverduehoneymoon trip to Japan.

Why with that hashtag? You see, since we got married, we never went to have our REAL Honeymoon like other couples. I got pregnant Joshua right after 2 months from our wedding day. Yeay so much fertility there...I know! (^_^)... since then, our life was quite busy...not only have to adapt to each other and but also adapting with the new title 'mommy and daddy to be'. So we got married on march 2011...and 2016...we finally have our honeymoon ..yeayyyy... Excited? I was beyond excited... like wow going oversea?...it was my 1st time indeed!

This whole idea trip to Japan is coming from my husband. It just happened to be that my husband got a friend a Thai friend whom he met during their 20 day course at Beijing and that friend is currently pursuing her Ph.D (last semester already) at Tottori (one of the province in Kansai area). So my husband told me that, 'sementara masih ada kawan dia di Jepun, bagus pergi sana at least bab guide sudah free'...at first i was quite reluctant because...I know Japan is among the expensive country in Asia (Spore of course the most expensive country in the world)...and my biggest worry is that where to find money...sedangkan duit sedia ada pun just cukup2 to cover our monthly expenses. Mau saving tu memang kalau mau terbang tahun ni di Japan patutnya suda simpan dari tahun lepas lagi...

But here is my husband strength lies on...his strong determination...If he already set it in his mind then he will do it...

But of course... to me is all by God grace and favour to us...

So cut story, we did got some money..on April 1st, I went to renew my passport and bought the ticket...total ticket for both of us plus i chose quiet zone seat and luggage so all together is about RM2400.

The next move is asking cuti rehat from my boss. And thanked God she approved it without any hesitation. Wow...u see with this my current boss, it is actually really hard for us to simply take holiday without any solid  excuse reason. But she said YES easily..so it is actually the 1st sign that God indeed 'merestui' our journey to Japan.

The 2nd sign is that, our trip was during school holidays. So my husband managed to ask help from my mother in laws and his sister who is a teacher to come to KL and help us to look after our kids. They agreed upon it...therefore i am so thankful for them. I thanked God because his favour to us in so many ways.

---------- The day that we supposed to fly--------------

ok this is will be my biggest lesson learnt! I have never imagined this 'thing' will ever happens to myself. Looking at how quite frequent flying to Sabah since I was 13. There is no ever thought that I will miss our flight to Japan. Crazy right!

But it happened! what funny thing is that, I bought the ticket , i gave my husband a copy of it...and I just looked at ticket once only; that was on the day I bought the ticket online! So i was so confident that we will fly on 7th of June on 1.00 am. So here is the tricky part..well it is tricky when u only look one time only to ur ticket! So...i dunno why even my husband didn't even said anything about the hour of our departure time. And he actually still working on the 7th June. So when we reached at KLIA2 on the 7th at 11 pm. Getting ready to check in, i was actually confused because I cannot find our flight number on the display LCD. Until we went straight to the counter and there he goes the AA stewardess telling us that we missed our flight. Kan...jam 1pagi maksud nya awal pagi of 7th lah kan..yang datang awal pagi 8th siapa suruh... #failmatematik #facepalm

pic above: muka kecewa tapi husband sempat belanja starbucks dengan caption macam tu! (-_-)

My husband dah start mau marah sama saya....pada mulanya sy mau argue sebab sy suda bagi tiket sama dia juga...but at that point.. i thought fighting is useless! In the airport some-more...it is just not worth of our energy!

So then, we asked the AA what time will be the next flight...again THANK GOD..there is still kosong for the next day flight at 8am on the 8th of June. Although I have to top up some extra money which again #habisduitaku, but then..I still praise Jesus because...there is still got flight...fuhhhh..

of course when this happened, I admitted that our mood of #honeymoon is slowly faded! I keep on blaming myself for not listening my inner voice..(and I thought it is the Holy Spirit) who keep on reminding me to have  a look to our ticket..but NO i ignored it. Again this is my lesson learn. I should listen to what God want to say.

In the meantime, my husband called our Hotel Room informing them that there will be a little changes of our check in time. Thank God once again...we didn't miss our booking. Fuhhhh.

Of all these, still I want to thank God for everything. I guess this honeymoon trip is also taught us husband and wife to be more understand each other and have patience, And biggest lesson learn to me is not ignoring my 'suara hati nurani'. And maybe next time I will not chose subuh punya flight to avoid mistake like this! hehehehe

Anyway, although our trip didn't start very well....but I tell you...once we reached at Kansai..the whole new environment make us super duper excited!

Will tell you more on my next post!

See you...

Thank You for Reading!

Descendants of The Sun

Its been a long time right...

So many stories but let me just update my blog today with sharing it with you my new addictions..that makes me jumping joy every wednesday to friday...

a little bit of flashback..

I am a freak die hard fan of korean drama since winter sonata that was on 2002 when i was still a university student. I remember back then when i was so into that drama that i willing to spend my money just to buy vcd of the drama that cost me RM99 (this is consider expensive for a student that just dependent on her scholarship). My family scolded me but well i am that kind of person. when i really like something i will buy it even it is expensive! yeay my bad!

But somehow...during in 2011 i stop watching any korean dramas...maybe because i was busy building my own family. Just got married on busy raising my son (now i got 3 sons..) and i have no ASTRO that time...so i am bit 'katak dibawah tempurung' because i didnt know any new korean dramas nor actor or actress except Bae Yong Joon and Choi Ji Woo (ya they were winter sonata leads). 

but towards the end of 2014..now that i have ASTRO (basic one, only have KBS Channel).. out of blue i click to KBS Channel and there it goes Oh My Venus.. but i was not thoroughly following that story at first because i know its gonna be series and my life schedule was not just allowed me to stuck to it...but thanks to my friend kiera...she introduced me this so called online website that u can watch online korean dramas. SO from there my life changed. And I started to hook to korean drama. AGAIN.

so what happened.. i saw teaser for this drama Descendants of the sun (DOTS) and what caught my eyes is that the female lead Song Hye Kyo. Because i saw her in Autum in my heart ( I dont really like this drama because of its ending and personally i don like the hero i like the other one, won bin) and then full house and i never knew that she did acting in Hotelier (i just found out recently). So  i was like..wah i should see this drama i kinda miss SHK acting. The male lead...i dont really know him..so i just ignore him.

But what happened...1st episode..i was like 'love at the first sight'...their chemistry was SUPERB ..their lines was funny...straight forward...and the love between army and doctor was just perfect!

I dont remember any bad scene of this drama. It seems that all scenes is the best even the supporting actor also did their job very very well!

But of course i do have some fav scene..basically i like ep 1 to ep 3 the most...

This part is the best! Staring to each other..and the line that been said was just win my heart!

and here where they started to discover back their feelings..oh my God the looks from SJK to SHK was just real...

During the interview, SJK did said this was the best part that every cast and crew like. Apparently i like it too. He was just so manly here with the gun. 

This part..what can i say...it is short but the way SJK put his hand to SHK waist was just real..He was so protective..and I like man to be protective to his girl.

 and beautiful Dr. Kang Mo Yoen.. indeed she is the most beautiful actress in S.K

So this week is the final episode of this drama. I finally can loosen up myself after almost 2 months being a crazy mommy who sit in front of the tv and almost forgetting my task as a mother and a wife. hahahaha. Sorry dear husband....

The drama may reach to its final episode but..this two couple #songsongcouple #kikyocouple will forever have special in my heart. Hahaha.

note: all pics credit to google images.

Extend Grace

hello there..

hi february.. (^^)

Just let me share some story of mine that really changed the inner of me...

This story is about me and my little family. It is not to embarresed anyone that close to my heart but rather than ehm..lets just say i am grateful..and amazed for what the Lord Jesus Christ had done for the past whole week.

U see, being a parent is not that easy. in this stage where my sons were in their 'glorious'moment who like to do many adventurous things that sometime...we as their parents can lost our patience towards our kids.

Plus..we have a special kids like Joshua which can really draw us to the limit of our patience...(gila what kind of bahasa i used here...hahahaha..whateverlah kan).

On top of that..my husband is a very garang person. He has a very very minimum patience...especially when it comes to discipline our sons. You know,,when a father start to yell..memang berterabur lah all my sons masing2 mencari saya.

And this is where i dont like my husband...because when he start yelling and smacking...me myself feel so scared too. Apa lagi my sons kan...i just couldnt stánd his voice...and because of that we end up quarreling (mau displin anak2 last2 bergaduh pula..sandi betul)

When it happened..i will directly said to my husband (dengan emosi marah)..that how come he can be like that...being a christian..he supposed to learn to be more patience...and here i became the judge..i critic his attitude and constantly remind him his bad behaviour..

Yes..before u said why not u pray for ur husband...honestly..i have been praying for my husband since before we married. I knew he has this bad temper and i always pray and hope that one day he will change. and it's been almost 5 yrs we get married..yet..he is still the same person...

i have to admit that i used to give up hoping a change in my husband. I know God but somehow i just losing hope for my husband.

Until i found the truth. One day i came across Daily Grace Inspirational from Pastor Joseph Prince. Yes I subscribe his daily devotion everyday. But along the way..i always end up not reading it. But it was God that bring me back to read his article one day.

The story is using Zacchaeus the chief tax collector. Those who is not familiar this story from the bible let me just share it with u here. Zacchaeus was the chief tax collector and rich. One day Jesus came to his place Jericho. Zacchaues was eager to meet Jesus...he wondered what kind of person Jesus is. Zaccaheus must heard how Jesus had healed many people. Those who blind can see again. Those who cannot walk can walk again. Those who been possessed by demon became a free and normal person. So Zacchaeus must be very curious at that time.

Let me put this way..if a famous person cameby to ur place u must be excited too kan..at this era..if we want to meet person who is hardly can be meet in person..there will always an instagram to click...hahaha. with just 1 click and u can stalk their private life. But not during zacchaues time. Ironically..zacchaeus is a very short person. Because of many people followed Jesus...he had to climb the tree to see Jesus. And there goes story..that Jesus stop and told Zacchaeus that He want to come to his house. Zacchaeus was so happy.

somethin to ponder..there was never mention in the bible that during their meeting Jesus and Zacchaeus that Jesus had pinpoint his lifestyle as a tax collector or being judgmental to him. Jesus just talked and Zacchaeus was just happy. What happened is the miracle. With just a meeting with Jesus...Zacchaus make a commitment...he said.."Behold Lord, the half of my goods i give back to the poor. and if i have defrauded anyone of anything, i restore it fourfold (Luke 19:8).

So here...if u see the situation...Jesus never accused or judged Zacchaeus. He just accept him as who he is. By extend His grace to Zacchaeus and salvation has come to him.

This story ..the truth of Grace that Jesus showed to Zacchaeus changed me.

U see..i know my husband weaknesses. Yes he is a very kurang sabar person. Sangat kurang. I had prayed for him. I forgive him everytime he do mistakes. But..one thing is even though i forgive him...my husband is just a normal human being. We human makes mistakes so am I. When he do mistakes..here i am..reminding him his weaknesses..seems holy i am..but it just make me like any other people...whenever people make mistakes sometime i pinpoint again his weaknesses.

But what Jesus did with Zaccaheus? Jesus knew what Zacchaeus did to the poor..but instead Jesus came and eat with him. Never mention his weaknesses. Never judge or accused zacchaues. He sat there and accept Zacchaeus. But miracle happened. Zachaues changed to be a better person.

So i stop and reflect myself. It is not praying for my husband to change but rather i prayed to God..that everytime my husband make mistakes or sakitkan hati (saya or anak2)..I will just extend God Grace to my husband by accepting his flaws and asking God to make me love my husband continously.

What happened...miracle happened. The moment i prayed and make my commitment..I can see progress in my husband. The past week..I hardly heard my husband yelling our sons like he used to do. I can see much more patience in himself. Though sometimes he did lost his patience but is really different. And I knew is all because God grace. I never said this to my husband but i knew is all because Jesus Christ. Just the way Zacchaeus meet Jesus.

My post today is quite long...but I guess this is the story for my lovely February. All of us has our own weaknesses. Instead of judging..or keep reminding the person his weaknesses and asking them to change..just pray to God...submit it to God...

We cannot change person but God can.

with that,,,thank you for reading. I pray God will do the same in ur marriage.
Be Blessed.

The beginning

so it's 2016.

hehehe. Lets start this new year chapter with a happy birthday post.

so yesterday 17.01.2016, our big boy Joshua is officially 4 years old. 

It was just a small gathering with my family. My sister from kuantan had Dental Convention at PWTC and she insisted to buy a birthday cake for Joshua. So i let her win. hehehehe. anyway thank you odot,

This year, we as family started it very well. I mean, before the 2015 ended both of us took holiday leave and have a very meaningful holiday for the family. We then celebrate new year eve at church with our friends and praying together for a smooth  year ahead.

I have made some resolutions for myself and for the whole family. Some of it is in progress. And i am happy.

yeah...

i hope for a better 2016

happy new year everyone...

Let go of the Mom Guilt..

Menjadi seorang ibu sememangnya perkara yang mengujakan. Tringat pengalaman pertama mengandungkan Joshua. Excited menunggu rasa bagaimana perasaanya apabila anak yg belum pernah dilihat menendang dalam rahim. Excited rasanya bila memikirkan diri sedang membawa nyawa ke dunia dan excited rasanya menunggu detik2 bersejarah bertemu dengan si kecil.

Tapi menjadi seorang ibu adalah satu perkara yang real... maksud saya real ialah.. once you become a mother there will be no turning back..and everything about anything new will happen...

Tidak mau marah...termarah juga...
Tidak mau jerit...terjerit juga...
Tidak mau merotan...terotan juga...

Kalau dulu persepsi saya mengenai ibu saya adalah dia adalah seorang SUPERWOMAN. Tapi bila saya sendiri melaluinya dengan anak 3...wow...perkataan superwoman itu sebenarnya bukan datang dari ibu sendiri tapi pandangan orang luar atau dari anaknya sendiri..the mother herself will never say she is superwoman...

Why?

I tell u why. And its real thing! Saya tidak percaya ada ibu yang tidak pernah marah anak. Tidak pernah displin anak. Tidak pernah jerit anak. Tidak taulah kalau memang ada ibu yg lembut sepanjang masa...sy akan fikir wow ..anak dia mesti senang diurus. Sebab yg namanya anak aduh...macam2 perangai yang tidak dijangka akan keluar...

Talking about kesabaran. My husband said im a lady full with patience. Maybe because compared to my husband i have higher level of patience than him. Tapi hakikatnya...tidak juga. Saya pun kadang2 and most of the time bila saya stress atau penat dengan kerja2 (balance antara being a mom, a wife and a career woman) kesabaran saya juga menipis.

Dan apabila itu terjadi...memang kesian lah anak2 saya. Kadang2 saya terfikir ibu yang sampai bunuh anak tu mungkin mengalami stress yang amat tinggi yang tidak dapat dihandle nya sudah. Barangkali? i dunno!

Tapi jujur saya juga pernah terkeluar cakap dengan anak2 saya.. 'kamu ni menyusahkan saya'. "penat saya jadi mummy kamu"..ädalah yang sy baling keluar ni"begitulah...

But did i really mean it? NO! Big NO! Dan dari situlah bila saya kembali tenang...rasa bersalah..a mom guilt tu ada... like...saya akan fikir balik....'kenapalah saya tidak bersabar lebih lagi?'... "kenapalah saya tidak kawal mulut saya?'...äduh apalah dosa anak2 saya".."tidak selamanya mereka kecil begini"...

Then bila mereka tidur dengan begitu nyenyak situlah saya rasa aman dan bahagia melihat mereka dan hanya ucapan syukur kerana Tuhan mengaruniakan anak2 yang sebegitu comel dan indah...

Jadi bila sya ingat mama saya dan keadaan saya sendiri..i would say my mom is an awesome mom. So do I. We just learn how to be better again and again. And each time when we fail..just forgive ourselves and move on.. just like what Donna Bell said about motherhood...

"MOTHERHOOD IS A CHOICE YOU MAKE EVERYDAY to put someone else's happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right thing is..
and to forgive yourself over and over again FOR DOING EVERYTHING WRONG."